Win, but only this much….

I’m doing quite a lot of work recently around claiming my Power, and being Great.

And no, not great in the Followers, Likes, famous sense, but Great in the make a difference, live my BEST Life, positively change the lives of millions, sense. To this end, I’m currently reading “Sacred Success” by Barbara Stanny, and digging deep into my self, my stories and my reasons for playing small all this time.

While reading today, something hit me. I should warn you, this isn’t gonna sit well with some folks and that’s ok, just keep an open mind and read on.

As a child, then a teen, (and to some extent even now) I was ONLY allowed to Win within the boxes my parents set out for me. In other words, yes, they WANTED me to win, but ONLY on their terms. So, whenever I did great at anything other than the things THEY valued (school, church activities, not having my own opinion lol) they would not acknowledge what I’d done. In retrospect, this lack of acknowledgement when I did good things had a few effects on me:

1. I became resentful and rebellious

Why do ANYTHING YOU want, if what I love and am great at doesn’t matter to you? This rebellion included not bothering to do well at school, although it was widely accepted (and therefore frustrated everyone) that I’m highly intelligent.

2. I began to devalue myself

Try being a child needing your parents’ approval and praise and not getting it. . . wreaks havoc with your self esteem. If you’re not good enough for your parents, then who ARE you good enough for?

3. I never really put heart into anything after a while, coasting along on raw talent (which I’m abundant in).

This meant that I’ve successfully avoided Greatness. I never did enough, gave the extra time and discipline, invested the energy, into being truly Great at anything, and was content always being just “good enough”. And, because my good enough is some people’s really good, I’ve gotten along.

Now, I look at my Life and I’m not impressed with me. I see so many times when I could have gone further, done better, pushed myself and been truly Great, but my template didn’t allow for that.

So, now I make a decision. . .

Greatness is my birthright. Because I’m so blessed and talented, because I have been blessed with so much, much is expected of me, and it is time to step up. It’s time for me to unlearn the apathy and getting by, and REALLY see what I can do, what I can give. It’s no longer about my parents, this is about me being able and ready to applaud ME.

So, what is it that’s been stopping YOU from being Great?

If your story is similar to mine and you’re ready to unpack it and step into YOUR Greatness, then I’m inviting you to book a session with me. Find out more about VIP Life Success Coaching at https://linktr.ee/teamviplife 

Peace + Light

KAramel ❤