No products in the basket.
Recently, I realised that for years I’ve been walking around with a burden of guilt for a situation I have zero responsibility for. Basically, I referred a passing acquaintance to a friend of mine who was selling some merchandise, there was a ‘glitch’ in the process, and the merchandise and money both ended up in the Bermuda Triangle. *facepalm*
Needless to say, I went into a tizzy, nailing my friend to the cross and trying to assure my acquaintance at the same time, that all would be amicably resolved. When, after weeks, it was clear that the situation was at a stalemate and my friend was not bothered to make it right, I willingly supplied my acquaintance with my friend’s FULL name and house address, and suggested that she go the way of recovering her money through the law. She declined.
At THAT point is where my ACTUAL responsibility ended, because she made a decision to not pursue action available to her and seek recourse. Of course, being the “Take the world on my shoulders” addict that I was at that time, I TOTALLY missed my cue to exit stage left because the situation was no longer one for my plate. Many years later, it has JUST occurred to me that I did what I could and what was right, in a situation where neither party insisted on contracts or receipts, and where the wronged party refused to take further action to get her recourse.
This realisation has me more than a little bit shook up, as I ruminate on ALL the stress and guilt and sleepless nights and sheer terror I experienced while wondering how to fix the situation, even going as far as deciding to repay the acquaintance myself. Such a waste of time, energy and mind space, and sooo much clogging up my FLOW, blocking my blessings and stopping my Love. Sigh.
On the flip, I’m totally proud of myself that I have grown and evolved yet again, to the point where I can now set healthy boundaries and basically stay out of other people’s business! I see clearly now that I am blameless – I was simply the referee. The two parties entered into a loose, no parameter business transaction in which there would obviously be no clear and easy recourse for the offended party. None of that had ANYTHING to do with me.
This is also an amazing lesson for me (as if I needed any more) in NOT entering shoddy transactions of ANY kind – relationship, business, investment, whatever. It is imperative to ensure that ALL parameters are laid out, to know CLEARLY what each party expects and by when, to know what action is available should something go wrong and to have contracts, receipts etc (a paper trail).
So, what about you? Are YOU carrying around situations and “issues” that really, in truth are NOT on You? Situations which remain unresolved because someone else CHOSE to not take action to take care of themselves and seek their best interest?
BE Magic + Joy EVERY day!
KAramel
